As per psychology, it’s always pretty easy to find a reason not to do something that’s good for you—like exercise, getting a full night’s sleep, or finding a therapist. In my experience, psychotherapy usually helps quite a bit. People who are suffering can falsify strong working relationships with their therapists even if they have never tried therapy before. If you are going through a stressful time, or feel unhappy, anxious, or unsatisfied with yourself and your life, please don’t talk yourself out of taking care of your feelings.
Following are the most common anti-therapy attitudes I’ve heard –
1. “I’d rather talk to desired ones.”
Of course you should talk to your friends and your family. It’s important to find support when times are hard. Therapy doesn’t substitute friendship—but then again, friendship can’t do the work of Therapist, either. A therapeutic relationship is more than a friendship- Not only does it provide support, but it challenges you, allowing you to gain valuable insights into yourself. Therapists are trained listeners who can help you find the source of your problems, even if the source is your thoughts, your family, or you. This is the most common anti therapy attitude.
2. “It costs too much.”
Most insurance, doesn’t cover the full cost of psychotherapy—so it does become an investment in yourself. It’s true that there are times when the expense is not practical, but sometimes, an investment in therapy today can save you from much more costly, life-affecting problems in the future.
3. “I don’t have time.”
If you have the kind of problems that aren’t going to go away, finding a few hours to deal with them now might actually save you time, as well as money and heartache, in the end.
4. “Seeing a Therapist did not help.”
Every Therapist is an individual, with a unique personality, so there’s no reason to believe that a new therapist would fail you in the exact same way. Very likely, the person you saw back then was just not someone you could connect with. Another Therapist will, by definition, be different.
5. “What good is talking going to do?”
Lasting personality change does result from psychotherapy. It also often helps just to have someone you trust, who knows you well and with whom you can talk about difficult topics. The working alliance you forge with your therapist is a relationship, and as you develop that relationship, permanent change becomes possible.
6. “I’d rather not talk to an unknown person.”
Most therapists are skilled at making you feel comfortable quickly, and do not want to come across as judgmental maniacs. If you do have a few sessions with a new therapist but don’t feel comfortable, you can try being open about your concerns, or you can seek out a different therapist. Therapy is a relationship that is both professional and personal, and the equation you form with your therapist is an important factor in the treatment—all of which is to say, it won’t take much time for your therapist to no longer feel like a stranger. This is the most common anti therapy attitude.
7. “Therapists sit and judge you.”
That depends on what kind of Therapy you’re seeing. Even the therapists who do more listening than talking are not judging you—they are quietly working to perceive your problems your way, sensitively. And if you do feel judged by your therapist, you should bring up those feelings. It might seem uncomfortable at first, but your therapist will most likely be glad to talk about any feelings that arise in the course of treatment—including those brought up by the therapist or the treatment itself.
8. “I’d rather take medicine.”
Psychiatric medications don’t work equally well for everyone. Plus, every psychoactive drug has additional effects—also called “side effects,” On the other hand, psychotherapy has no chemical side effects and represents an active, positive coping strategy. Even in the cases where psychiatric medication maintenance is the treatment of choice, it often works best when combined with weekly psychotherapy.
9. “I wouldn’t want my issues to showcase.”
Psychotherapy is confidential, and the material discussed in therapy sessions is protected by law. As long as you do not present a danger to anyone, what you choose to talk about with your therapist will not leave the therapy room.